I’m thinking about this topic at this time in my life because I’ve had a recent infatuation, and in the spirit of learning from ones past mistakes (particularly, falling in love with the first impression of people and staying in constant contact with them such that updating that impression as one gets to know somebody better, becomes hard, and ultimately leads to cognitive dissonance, disappointment, and hurt), I temporarily deleted my means of communication with them to force a break and subsequent integration of information obtained post first impression, before resuming contact soon, in greater clarity.

Points of doubt include, whether I still have reason (as opposed to emotion) to like them, and whether I have reason (as opposed to emotion) to believe they still like me. I think some break will lead to greater integration of information and greater clarity of the field, and thus more realistic expectations, and fewer painful disappointmenrs.

Still, I’m going to Budapest for the gulash, anyway.